By Chinyere Omeje
Walking out on a relationship is a difficult thing to do, but sometimes there’s just nothing left to what was once a healthy and loving relationship. Trying to figure out why the relationship failed usually isn’t an easy and pleasant experience.
Reasons why relationships fall apart:
1. Absence of trust
When trust is lacking between partners in a relationship, that relationship is bound to fail. This can be a very uncomfortable experience. It starts feeling less like a relationship and more like jail time – regularly going through your phone, checking your bags, pockets or wallet, questioning everything you do or say etc.
All of these would drain off your positive energy, for you to get back your sanity, something needs to change, even if it means moving on.
2. Differing Expectations
When your expectations are mismatched with that of your partner, the relationship can hit the rocks. As a partner in a relationship, you expect your significant other to be faithful, show support in times of need.
Being able to understand your partner’s expectation from the onset is a way to avoid a collapse of the relationship.
3. Communication Problem
Failing to talk about the things that do matter is one reason why most relationships collapse over time. The seemingly insignificant things – failing to listen to her why she talks, forgetting to reply to her question, not calling when you should etc. happens occasionally but we tend to overlook them as nothing.
4. Anger issues
Most relationships fail because of unchecked anger issues. Nobody wants to be in a relationship with a yelling, screaming and angry person. Anger issue is one of the trickiest problems in a relationship.
Tackling anger issues in a relationship may require a regular visit to a therapist, finding a partner that makes you happy most times or breaking free from the stress of life.
5. Not investing enough time
Everybody wants to find love and be in an amazing relationship with someone special, even the busiest of persons. Staying in touch and connected is important for the health of a relationship. It is nearly impossible to feel connected to a person who is completely absent – emotionally, physically and mentally.
If you’re going to prevent a relationship collapse, you need to spend quality time together.
6. Money Issues
Differences in handling money can cause problem in a relationship. This is one of the most frequent reasons why relationships hit the rocks.
If one partner is regularly asked how s/he spends the money s/he earns, it can also cause serious issues.
Everyone wants to have the right to choose how and when his or her money should be spent.